Friends asked us over for dinner last night on the spur of the moment, and we had a simple, delicious meal and watched an old movie together afterward. This is my favorite kind of social invitation, no pressure, just a little sudden window of time and an opportunity to get together. When things are planned ahead, it so often turns out I'm too tired, or I can't think what to cook, or what I really need a to eat a sandwich with a good book. This kind of comfortableness with each other takes a long time to develop, but the fruits of the effort are so delightful.
And being with this couple is so tender and happy because when the woman and I first met, she was married to a man my husband and I grew to love and who was very important in our lives. He died suddenly, and she has been a widow until recently, living her life alone raising two kids, and then meeting this man three years ago, and now, here they are living together. And we are delicately forging a new balance, with her new partner, and yet trusting, because she is such an old friend. She has, of course, picked a wonderful man this time as well, and it gives my husband and I much joy.
And isn't this just the cycle of life. The happiness/sorrow/struggles/peace mix that we get to witness if we live long enough. We've been there with her through all the ups and downs, and felt them ourselves. But we're ready to love her partner, and support their happiness. What comfort this kind of friendship is for all parties. Seeing life not just go on, but circle back and embrace us.
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