Today is our older daughter's birthday. I talked to her this morning and wished her well. Last Friday she told us she is getting a divorce, and we are still stunned. We want to support her, our granddaughter, and our son-in-law, and yet, it is not our business, and we can only offer our love and help. They sound fine, and are cooperating and sharing custody. But it is a big wrench, and our world has tilted on it's axis a bit for us.
The night before last I dreamed our whole family was in a boat and it capsized, and we struggled to swim to shore, and when we looked around, some family members were missing. Then we saw two grizzly bears being put in a small cage, and a baby toddled up and we were yelling for someone to scoop it up and get it away from the cage.
Last night I dreamed my husband and I were in a car being chased and first I got shot in the gut, then he did and the car was careening out of control.
So my psyche is working on this news big time. But in daily life, I'm glad everyone's healthy and I know and trust them to put our granddaughter first and be reasonable. I also know it's my job to respect their choices, even if I don't understand them, and stay a steady light off in the distance. This is their news, their lives and I don't really know what is best for anyone else. Heck, I don't know what is best for me most of the time. I have to trust the resilience of my family, as it is reconfigured. And I do, deep down, I do.
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